About Me
Like most of us, I didn't have the best start with relationships.
In my early life everything I knew about love came from my parents, who, through no fault of their own, didn't have the resources they needed to show up for each other in a loving and supportive way. As a young adult I found myself in dysfunctional relationships, craving love but not quite knowing how to get it, or even what healthy love really looked like. I knew there had to be a better way.
In 2019 I graduated summa cum laude from Arizona State University with a B.A. in Human Communication. After years of studying relational communication and positive psychology, I abandoned my plan to pursue a research career in the field in favor of finding a way to make the privileged knowledge I had gained in my university studies accessible to the people it would help most.
Since 2021 I have professionally helped women all over the world to work through their relationship challenges and attract the kind of love and respect they want and deserve.
I spend the summers living in Munich and the winters in Arizona with my amazing husband Daniel and our two bengal cats Lucy and Latte.
Client Testimonials
Kat ~ Tucson, Arizona, USA
If you're on the fence about getting support with dating and your relationships, take the jump. If you're ready to make active changes in your dating life that will eventually lead to a fulfilling view of love, take the jump. I worked with Nicole individually and in group sessions, spanning about a year and a half. In that time she listened to my history, helped me make sense of my relational patterns, offered support in the dating process, and saw my current relationship through initial growing pains after the honeymoon phase wore off.
We laughed about horrendously awful first dates, she lovingly called me on my trauma responses and pointed out patterns of my disorganized attachment style/self sabotage, and provided a wealth of science-based resources to strengthen my relationship. Coaching is different than therapy because it's not as one-sided and clinical. Nicole is an active yet behind-the-scenes participant in her client's dating life and a cheerleader for her clients. I kind of imagined her on my shoulder throughout all of the first dates and difficult conversations with my current partner.
I came to Nicole with two serious failed relationships and a year of being single. I was living in a new city and desperately afraid of repeating the same patterns but in a different relationship. I needed a strategy with early dating and support after finding a great match. I happened to find a loving, caring, adventurous, understanding, and light-hearted partner during our coaching. And I unconsciously tried to run, find faults, break boundaries, and push him out of my life (okay, I'm still working that.) Nicole held space, offered real solutions that I could pick from, and never ran away from uncomfortable topics.
If you want the to-long-didn't read version, working with Nicole made me feel:
- Confident
- Lovingly seen and exposed
- Supported and Encouraged
- Empowered in my choices
- Able to laugh off situations that would have left me ruminating for weeks
- Ready to have uncomfortable conversations in my relationship that ultimately fostered deeper connection
Marta - New Jersey, USA
When I first met and connected with Nicole, I was in a situationship with a man who wouldn’t fully commit to me and our relationship because I had a daughter from a previous marriage. I was at a point in my life where I was feeling very low and anxious about dating and meeting any serious partners due to my past. To be truly transparent, I don’t think I even had a good idea of what I wanted and needed from a partner at that point in my life.
Despite having a fairly amicable situation with my ex husband and our co-parenting situation, this “situationship” person I was dating made me feel that I was an inadequate partner due to my past “baggage,” which was extremely discouraging. I began to tell myself I wasn’t good enough for a healthy relationship and told myself, “what high value man would want to be with me if I have a daughter with another man?”
Seemingly at the right time, Nicole slid into my DM’s and we connected almost immediately. She understood my situation and was confident she would be able to help me through her program. I was hesitant at first because I knew this would take a lot of inner healing and inner work that I was scared to face for a very long time. My goal was to find and foster a healthy relationship with a high value man that sees my worth and loves me for all of me AND accepts my daughter; someone that is willing to take the good with the bad and help each other grow.
I did as Nicole coached me, sometimes with excitement and other times with great hesitation. Putting myself out there was quite intimidating, but I knew it was what I needed to do in order to get where I wanted to be. I took the leap into the unknown, did the inner work and truly got honest and deep with myself to discover what I truly wanted and needed. I had to tell myself and BELIEVE that I am good enough despite what others told me in the past. I knew I had to embrace those aspects of myself and love them, even though those were the things that stopped me from opening up before.
I faced many challenges, but having Nicole and the community of women she created as a support system helped me get through those difficult times. Finding a healthy partner and relationship at this point in my life was one of my top goals, and a year later, it’s crazy to see that I’m actually here. After many matches, dates, and a few short relationships that I invested in, I finally found someone who I can truly see myself with in the long run! I have learned so much about myself and what I truly need from a partner going through this journey with Nicole and her program. The knowledge I’ve gained working with her can help me in all aspects of my life- not just in relationships and dating, and I will truly cherish this experience for the rest of my life!
Anastacia - Chicago, USA
For my entire life until recently I struggled immensely with codependency and choosing partners from a very wounded place. I had been in therapy for 10 years prior to meeting Nicole and in codependency support groups. The guidance I received from Nicole was the ultimate key to finally moving forward in my life and taking what I knew about myself and actually putting into action how to get the results I wanted in the romantic sphere of my life. Nicole is eloquent in how she words things yet honest and open. Nicole is self aware and it imbues her practice with so much presence. She is thoughtful and listens deeply. I will forever be grateful for someone as brilliant and warm hearted as her.
Maribeth - Ohio, USA
When I first started working with Nicole I wasn’t prepared how her warm, gentle, yet honest guidance would forever change my life. These are just a few of the many things she has taught me in dating and relationships: setting boundaries, having standards, managing my attachment style, healthy communication, embracing and balancing my feminine and masculine energies, attracting men, letting go of body shame and limiting beliefs, end generational trauma, and so much more. The only regret I have is that I didn’t work with her sooner, it would’ve saved me from so many painful heartbreaks. I’m incredibly grateful for Nicole providing me an opportunity to learn better relational skills that helped me end my cycle of toxic relationships.